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Wednesday, February 23, 2011

forgive and move on

Posting in the evenings this week.  I'm sans hubby or help so it's a better time for me.  Back to mornings next week.  :-)

Forgive and move on.  Sounds easy enough, but it can be hard to forgive someone who has wronged you, especially when that person doesn’t see what he did wrong or offer an apology.  

When we are pissed, pain or anger tends to take over our minds.  We replay conversations, imagine new ones in which we come out on top, envision the offender rolling naked in poison ivy, etc.  We’ve all been there.  No one is exempt.  And most likely, none of us enjoys these obsessive thoughts.  

When I find myself in that moment, I do something that a psychotherapist taught me many years ago.  When I start getting obsessive, replaying the offensive conversation in my head over and over, I imagine that instead of words, we speak black sludge.  The silent black sludge drips down our chins, oozes onto the street and disappears into a conveniently nearby gutter.  Black sludge is my vitriolic spew of choice, but it can be anything - gumballs, nails, fire ants...  Anyway, this halts the conversation and, as a result, ends the constant replay.  Then I replace the thought with a beautiful memory or look at a happy picture that takes me to another place.

When you shift your state of thought, you can lift your state of mind.  Once your noggin is no longer jammed up with negativity, there is more room for the good stuff.  You can allow yourself to think of the offender as an imperfect human being, doing the best he can with what he knows.  And you can forgive him, even if he never utters the words, “I’m sorry.” 

How does this apply to new age thinking?  Simple.  Happiness and love are the vibrations we are aiming for.  It’s hard to be happy when you’re totally rip shit.  By activating your SUPERPOWER to change your thinking, you engage your personal connection with the Universe, interpreting challenging situations or people through a wider lens, creating a better reality for yourself and others, thus making the world, YES THE WORLD, a happier place. 

Forgive and move on.  Maybe not easier said than done afterall.



  1. LOVE this! I am going to try the black sludge technique next time I find my mind going there!

  2. Oh the sludge, how I do remember :)

  3. This is a good one. Love it. So difficult to achieve though ;)

  4. a quote i often have to repeat to myself: "resentment is letting someone live rent free in your mind."

  5. Sludge is a good idea.. I need to remember this :)